Give it to me baby… by Tiger RoxXx
Hello there my lovely gifts to this sexy society! It is your precious kitten on a mission here to get you what you want for this holiday season. Now as a girl who knows what she wants I can give you a list a mile long on how to make me purr with glee when looking under my tree this year, but how do you tell that special someone how to please you?
It is a dangerous topic that definitely needs addressing because not enough people express themselves when it comes to sex. Who better to help you in the bedroom than me? I am sure you have had this thought before, too! Right!?! So let's get down and dirty, or leather and lace, or whips and chains, or whatever your likes and dislikes may be- and do a little sharing.
How do you approach the topic?
A little sexual check-up is healthy in any relationship. If there is an obvious problem then be gentle with your mount of the topic, but this does not mean let it go. There may be factors contributing to the lack of intimacy such as stress, depression, or medication. Being forthright and honest with your wants and needs at the right time, like when having a picnic in the bedroom, will show you are not complaining but trying to improve things. Do not use negative words, stay focused on your wants/desires.
Does it make you look bad to have sexual knowledge?
Approaching the topic of heightened sexual experiences will not make you look bad. Do not compare old lovers with your current one, but do be free to improve current sexual encounters with positive reinforcements. Remember you can get a Bachelor's Degree in something and still have only went to one school! Just because you are good doesn't mean you spread your knowledge through out the land!
Want to get creative with your sex life?
You deserve to be fulfilled! As does your partner, so remember that! Roll playing, games, trying new things, the list goes on and on! Nothing kills a sex life faster than being bored. Chances are if you are bored, so are they! Dress up! Be creative, and make sure you experiment! There is no shame in trying new things!
What if your likes/dislikes differ?
You have to be open to all ideas…with in reason, that is! You may not know if what tickles his fancy will tickle yours as well until you give it a shot. It is better to give and receive, so be willing to take a chance with them and make sure they return the favor. If you end up being totally incapable sexually you may need to go a step further into evaluating the status of the relationship.
How do you keep it fresh?
Keep sex on the front burner. Evaluate on a regular basis, whether things are good or not so much. Having the habit of a check up will keep pleasure on your mind when the time comes and make you a more sexual person in general. Find activities that you haven't done before, or places you haven't tried just to mix it up. Give yourself permission to be pleased how you want.
So my little love muffins, I hope you go straight away to your lovers door and beat it down with my advice. I will be listening for your bumps in the night air! Happy Holidays to you and yours and be sure to wrap your packages.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Be sure to email me with your comments, love notes, and ideas at tigerroxxx@gmail.com!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Monday, December 1, 2008
The Go Backsies…
The Go Backsies…
Well hello there, my cutie kitties and precious pups, it's Tiger RoxXx, your favorite feline here. As I have watched this year spin by I have also had the joy of seeing you move in and out… and in…and out…of your relationships that is. So I thought it was just about time to discuss that little annoying topic of how to avoid the 'Go Backsies'. You know what I mean! That all too precious safe thing of a relationship that may not be all that safe for our mind, body, and soul. We all have done it; there is no shame in admitting it…but why?
Why after closing that nasty little door behind us do we stray back into the lairs of the once forgotten painful romance that we know is no good for us? Well, the short answer would be selective memory (no that is not just a male aliment). We choose to believe that things can be much different as well as forgetting the reasons that we stopped doing what we did. The long answer… we all want to win. Admit it, it's all about the competition! "Failed relationship", "Lost Love", "breaking up" – these are all terms of winning or losing something. Now, whether we were the initiator of the process or not, we still may feel ourselves wanting to go back. Let's look at it!
Excuse 1 "Maybe it wasn't so bad," When we first leave the ideas and reasons for leaving are fresh in our head. It probably has been a long time coming and the wounds are seeping and oozing. Once they heal, it is much easier to ignore the scars caused by the relationship and we only think of our loneliness. Instead of doing the work we should on ourselves or finding a new love we go back to the familiar.
Excuse 2 "Maybe I didn't try hard enough," This stems from guilt and lack of self love. Instead of building our self esteem we are bending to someone else's will. Do not allow this to happen. We can not go back and change what happened in the relationship by rekindling it.
Excuse 3 "Maybe he/she could change after all," If we love someone we love them for who they are. We should be happy with them from the jump. I know it sound cliché but it is a fact. Love them or leave them- the imperfections and perfections, that means we do not have to think about making compromises - we just do.
Excuse 4 "But I really love them" Check out my article on "Love Sick" it talks about self destructive love behavior. If our love for someone is self destructive then it is not really love. If it were healthy we wouldn't have left. Going back into that situation is bad for everyone involved.
Excuse 5 "We have been together so long" Really? This one cracks me up the most. What I hear is: "I have been miserable for 6 yrs, I can't stop now!" When we are not happy we are not happy, do not go back to try and work it out because we have time invested, that just means we gave it a shot already. Good job, move on.
So if you are playing the game of the 'Go Backsies' then no one is going to win…except maybe the movers. So start fresh with yourself, by yourself, so we can end the year with some amazing adventures! I can think of a few other things that you can go in and out of…no silly, not that… the bars.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Well hello there, my cutie kitties and precious pups, it's Tiger RoxXx, your favorite feline here. As I have watched this year spin by I have also had the joy of seeing you move in and out… and in…and out…of your relationships that is. So I thought it was just about time to discuss that little annoying topic of how to avoid the 'Go Backsies'. You know what I mean! That all too precious safe thing of a relationship that may not be all that safe for our mind, body, and soul. We all have done it; there is no shame in admitting it…but why?
Why after closing that nasty little door behind us do we stray back into the lairs of the once forgotten painful romance that we know is no good for us? Well, the short answer would be selective memory (no that is not just a male aliment). We choose to believe that things can be much different as well as forgetting the reasons that we stopped doing what we did. The long answer… we all want to win. Admit it, it's all about the competition! "Failed relationship", "Lost Love", "breaking up" – these are all terms of winning or losing something. Now, whether we were the initiator of the process or not, we still may feel ourselves wanting to go back. Let's look at it!
Excuse 1 "Maybe it wasn't so bad," When we first leave the ideas and reasons for leaving are fresh in our head. It probably has been a long time coming and the wounds are seeping and oozing. Once they heal, it is much easier to ignore the scars caused by the relationship and we only think of our loneliness. Instead of doing the work we should on ourselves or finding a new love we go back to the familiar.
Excuse 2 "Maybe I didn't try hard enough," This stems from guilt and lack of self love. Instead of building our self esteem we are bending to someone else's will. Do not allow this to happen. We can not go back and change what happened in the relationship by rekindling it.
Excuse 3 "Maybe he/she could change after all," If we love someone we love them for who they are. We should be happy with them from the jump. I know it sound cliché but it is a fact. Love them or leave them- the imperfections and perfections, that means we do not have to think about making compromises - we just do.
Excuse 4 "But I really love them" Check out my article on "Love Sick" it talks about self destructive love behavior. If our love for someone is self destructive then it is not really love. If it were healthy we wouldn't have left. Going back into that situation is bad for everyone involved.
Excuse 5 "We have been together so long" Really? This one cracks me up the most. What I hear is: "I have been miserable for 6 yrs, I can't stop now!" When we are not happy we are not happy, do not go back to try and work it out because we have time invested, that just means we gave it a shot already. Good job, move on.
So if you are playing the game of the 'Go Backsies' then no one is going to win…except maybe the movers. So start fresh with yourself, by yourself, so we can end the year with some amazing adventures! I can think of a few other things that you can go in and out of…no silly, not that… the bars.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Does your relationship suck?
Does your relationship suck?
Hi there my loves! It is your sharp toothed kitty here with a quick check up on that
naughty R word! Puzzled? Shouldn't be...you know, relationship! Have you have
been riding the fence (instead of your love) on whether or not to call it quits? Well
I am here to pound that final nail right on the head. But are you ready for it?
There are lots of reasons why relationships fail, some are obvious while others
are hidden under the covers. Let's look at some of the naughty signs.
Control. One person feels like they are out of it, while the other has it all. Control,
like power, comes from with in yourself. You can not gain any more control by
taking it from someone else! Seriously. If you stay in control of yourself, your
mate is more likely to follow suit. Struggling to take control usually ends up in a
lose-lose situation, making both parties out of control. If you feel like you can not
get control of yourself and neither can your mate you need to find some one who
makes you feel more comfortable.
Keeping score. If the pattern in your relationship is to take count of who did what
and when then this is a serious sign of a failing relationship. It means that one
or the other of you feels like they bring more value into the relationship. This is a
hidden sign of selfishness, which will only grow worse with time.
It's already over. If you or your sweetie went into the relationship with an escape
plan, you better bet your bottom that it will be used. Negative thinking will spread
like...oh, that would be to easy...butter on a hot bun. HA! Planning for the end will
ensure that there will be one. This can also be a sign of being detached from
commitment, a constant pessimist, and someone who is always looking for the
next best thing.
Sneakiness. If your relationship does not mirror that of a best friend then it is not
a healthy relationship. If you have things you can not share or hide from your treat
then you are building a house of cards waiting for someone to just blow.
Openness is a sign of trust and without trust there is nothing. You may feel like
your cutie doesn't have to know all your business, all that means is you are not
ready to be in a relationship.
Is it me or my Rolex? Many times a person falls for what the other represents.
Other times it is the feeling that they get while around the other person, while not
really liking who that person is. Sometimes people like the feeling of falling while
not really caring who it may be with, then they find themselves in a full on
relationship unable to start over. Evaluate how you feel about that person, not
what they have, represent, or project. Do you really like them?
So those are the cold hard facts my sweet treats! So go home, check out the
base of your relationship, then do something. There is no need in staying
somewhere that you aren't perfectly happy!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Hi there my loves! It is your sharp toothed kitty here with a quick check up on that
naughty R word! Puzzled? Shouldn't be...you know, relationship! Have you have
been riding the fence (instead of your love) on whether or not to call it quits? Well
I am here to pound that final nail right on the head. But are you ready for it?
There are lots of reasons why relationships fail, some are obvious while others
are hidden under the covers. Let's look at some of the naughty signs.
Control. One person feels like they are out of it, while the other has it all. Control,
like power, comes from with in yourself. You can not gain any more control by
taking it from someone else! Seriously. If you stay in control of yourself, your
mate is more likely to follow suit. Struggling to take control usually ends up in a
lose-lose situation, making both parties out of control. If you feel like you can not
get control of yourself and neither can your mate you need to find some one who
makes you feel more comfortable.
Keeping score. If the pattern in your relationship is to take count of who did what
and when then this is a serious sign of a failing relationship. It means that one
or the other of you feels like they bring more value into the relationship. This is a
hidden sign of selfishness, which will only grow worse with time.
It's already over. If you or your sweetie went into the relationship with an escape
plan, you better bet your bottom that it will be used. Negative thinking will spread
like...oh, that would be to easy...butter on a hot bun. HA! Planning for the end will
ensure that there will be one. This can also be a sign of being detached from
commitment, a constant pessimist, and someone who is always looking for the
next best thing.
Sneakiness. If your relationship does not mirror that of a best friend then it is not
a healthy relationship. If you have things you can not share or hide from your treat
then you are building a house of cards waiting for someone to just blow.
Openness is a sign of trust and without trust there is nothing. You may feel like
your cutie doesn't have to know all your business, all that means is you are not
ready to be in a relationship.
Is it me or my Rolex? Many times a person falls for what the other represents.
Other times it is the feeling that they get while around the other person, while not
really liking who that person is. Sometimes people like the feeling of falling while
not really caring who it may be with, then they find themselves in a full on
relationship unable to start over. Evaluate how you feel about that person, not
what they have, represent, or project. Do you really like them?
So those are the cold hard facts my sweet treats! So go home, check out the
base of your relationship, then do something. There is no need in staying
somewhere that you aren't perfectly happy!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
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