Five Girlie No No’s… by Tiger RoxXx
Happy Saint Valentine’s Day my little lovers! I thought in this month full of passion and affection I would give you ladies five clues on what scare’s off the opposite sex. Of course there are many things that make us ‘hot under the collar’, but these top five traits will keep you in the clear if you can avoid them. Steam your love up in a good way, instead of making your Fella smelter with aggravation.
Since we pick on the guys often enough I thought I would help you sassy lass’s out this month with these little behavioral No No’s.
No No #1. Acting jealous – Jealousy is unbecoming. It makes a man feel backed into the fire. To much pressure can make a guy explode… and we aren’t talking wet dreams here. Be confident and self assured, if you have a jealousy problem you should not be with anyone until you are satisfied with yourself.
No No #2. Being too emotional –Having emotions at the right time is great, but remember men and women speak different languages. If you are not aware of the distinction between your emotional levels and his it could make for uncomfortable exchanges. Do not change who you are, change how you communicate it. This will allow for the heat in the relationship to stay in the right places.
No No #3. Seeming needy – While your actions may not appear needy to you, perception is reality in the man’s world. Multiple calls, stop ins, and communications can definitely seem over bearing to a guy, while to a chic it is ‘getting to know you’ time. Make plans to see each other so he will burn for you when he does see you.
No No #4. Talking to much – Now girls, don’t get offended… but we all know that due to nerves, habit, and nature chica’s are prone to let their mouths blaze way more than gente’s have patience for. This can lead to lots of issue’s… those skeletons come out of the closet way to early, character flaws seem amplified, and you don’t have time to listen which allows him to hide his weaknesses. Try to give it as much as you get it, ladies.
No No #5. Using sex as a weapon – I have heard comments implying that I am killer in bed, drop dead gorgeous, and that I execute tease with expertise BUT I would never use my skills for evil. In past articles we have discussed proper conduct to communicate, how to identify a loser, and ways to leave your lover so playing spiteful games is not necessary!!! Stooping to his level by using sex as a weapon is bad, and you will get no spankings. Find a better way to play or you will find yourself playing with fire.
So my darling dolls, these are the naughty No No’s that will put out your love’s flames if you aren’t careful. I hope you have a happy Valentine’s day that is No No free on me!
Meow baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Monday, January 12, 2009
5 guys you should never date….
5 guys you should never date….by Tiger RoxXx
Happy New Year my lovely purring pretties! I thought I would start this year off right with a little something that could help you all know what you should, or more over, shouldn't look for in this optimistic New Year. My feline heart had to giggle when writing this article, because I am sure some careless cad's eyes popped wide when seeing the title to this little number - but I will not call out individuals but character traits that you should avoid.
So for you gents whose peepers cross this page, take note's love, does this sound like you?
Mr. Wrong #1: The Controller. There are tasty times in life when a man taking charge is just the thing a girl needs. The Controller believes that he has the power to dictate what you wear, where you go, who your friends are, or many other aspects of your life. Initially it may seem like dedicated interest, but before long he will have you tucked away in his little world as yours disappears.
Mr. Wrong #2: The Sulker. Negative people suck… and not in a good way. Unfortunately there are some poor souls who live for it. Keep your distance from The Sulker because he will try to envelope you in his negativity and gloom. If you don't fall prey to it you will surely be sore trying to pull him out of the pits of doom.
Mr. Wrong #3: The Liar. We all know that The Liar is one to keep away from but unfortunately it seems this is impossible for some. Once the mistruth trend starts it is hard to erase. Some men feel pushed to deceive when asked a lot of pointed questions, if unrealistic expectations are set, or you react poorly to the truth. This by no means makes it right, but it implies that the two of you will always have that style of interaction and I can think of much better ways to relate.
Mr. Wrong #4: The Player. If you know you are looking for a relationship The Player is like kryptonite to your cause. While I believe that playing games is a great past time, all the characters should know the rules if they are involved. If your love interest is a player when you meet then don't think this habit is going to fade fast. Steer clear from these guys unless all you are after is a good time.
Mr. Wrong #5: The Fiend. The Fiend is the guy who is always after your cash. He is always borrowing, begging, and let's hope not stealing to handle his business and we all know that is not sexy. It is all too easy for him take advantage of a gesture and never appreciate your kindness. The Fiend will have many excuses and few contributions to the relationship. We all know it is better to give and to receive, right?
Watch out for these Mr. Wrong's so you can leave room for Mr. Right. So my New Year's Babies these are my cautions to you. Don't settle for less because you deserve the best and let's make 2009 a sexy, fun filled, healthy, happy new year!!!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Happy New Year my lovely purring pretties! I thought I would start this year off right with a little something that could help you all know what you should, or more over, shouldn't look for in this optimistic New Year. My feline heart had to giggle when writing this article, because I am sure some careless cad's eyes popped wide when seeing the title to this little number - but I will not call out individuals but character traits that you should avoid.
So for you gents whose peepers cross this page, take note's love, does this sound like you?
Mr. Wrong #1: The Controller. There are tasty times in life when a man taking charge is just the thing a girl needs. The Controller believes that he has the power to dictate what you wear, where you go, who your friends are, or many other aspects of your life. Initially it may seem like dedicated interest, but before long he will have you tucked away in his little world as yours disappears.
Mr. Wrong #2: The Sulker. Negative people suck… and not in a good way. Unfortunately there are some poor souls who live for it. Keep your distance from The Sulker because he will try to envelope you in his negativity and gloom. If you don't fall prey to it you will surely be sore trying to pull him out of the pits of doom.
Mr. Wrong #3: The Liar. We all know that The Liar is one to keep away from but unfortunately it seems this is impossible for some. Once the mistruth trend starts it is hard to erase. Some men feel pushed to deceive when asked a lot of pointed questions, if unrealistic expectations are set, or you react poorly to the truth. This by no means makes it right, but it implies that the two of you will always have that style of interaction and I can think of much better ways to relate.
Mr. Wrong #4: The Player. If you know you are looking for a relationship The Player is like kryptonite to your cause. While I believe that playing games is a great past time, all the characters should know the rules if they are involved. If your love interest is a player when you meet then don't think this habit is going to fade fast. Steer clear from these guys unless all you are after is a good time.
Mr. Wrong #5: The Fiend. The Fiend is the guy who is always after your cash. He is always borrowing, begging, and let's hope not stealing to handle his business and we all know that is not sexy. It is all too easy for him take advantage of a gesture and never appreciate your kindness. The Fiend will have many excuses and few contributions to the relationship. We all know it is better to give and to receive, right?
Watch out for these Mr. Wrong's so you can leave room for Mr. Right. So my New Year's Babies these are my cautions to you. Don't settle for less because you deserve the best and let's make 2009 a sexy, fun filled, healthy, happy new year!!!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Give it to me baby…
Give it to me baby… by Tiger RoxXx
Hello there my lovely gifts to this sexy society! It is your precious kitten on a mission here to get you what you want for this holiday season. Now as a girl who knows what she wants I can give you a list a mile long on how to make me purr with glee when looking under my tree this year, but how do you tell that special someone how to please you?
It is a dangerous topic that definitely needs addressing because not enough people express themselves when it comes to sex. Who better to help you in the bedroom than me? I am sure you have had this thought before, too! Right!?! So let's get down and dirty, or leather and lace, or whips and chains, or whatever your likes and dislikes may be- and do a little sharing.
How do you approach the topic?
A little sexual check-up is healthy in any relationship. If there is an obvious problem then be gentle with your mount of the topic, but this does not mean let it go. There may be factors contributing to the lack of intimacy such as stress, depression, or medication. Being forthright and honest with your wants and needs at the right time, like when having a picnic in the bedroom, will show you are not complaining but trying to improve things. Do not use negative words, stay focused on your wants/desires.
Does it make you look bad to have sexual knowledge?
Approaching the topic of heightened sexual experiences will not make you look bad. Do not compare old lovers with your current one, but do be free to improve current sexual encounters with positive reinforcements. Remember you can get a Bachelor's Degree in something and still have only went to one school! Just because you are good doesn't mean you spread your knowledge through out the land!
Want to get creative with your sex life?
You deserve to be fulfilled! As does your partner, so remember that! Roll playing, games, trying new things, the list goes on and on! Nothing kills a sex life faster than being bored. Chances are if you are bored, so are they! Dress up! Be creative, and make sure you experiment! There is no shame in trying new things!
What if your likes/dislikes differ?
You have to be open to all ideas…with in reason, that is! You may not know if what tickles his fancy will tickle yours as well until you give it a shot. It is better to give and receive, so be willing to take a chance with them and make sure they return the favor. If you end up being totally incapable sexually you may need to go a step further into evaluating the status of the relationship.
How do you keep it fresh?
Keep sex on the front burner. Evaluate on a regular basis, whether things are good or not so much. Having the habit of a check up will keep pleasure on your mind when the time comes and make you a more sexual person in general. Find activities that you haven't done before, or places you haven't tried just to mix it up. Give yourself permission to be pleased how you want.
So my little love muffins, I hope you go straight away to your lovers door and beat it down with my advice. I will be listening for your bumps in the night air! Happy Holidays to you and yours and be sure to wrap your packages.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Be sure to email me with your comments, love notes, and ideas at tigerroxxx@gmail.com!
Hello there my lovely gifts to this sexy society! It is your precious kitten on a mission here to get you what you want for this holiday season. Now as a girl who knows what she wants I can give you a list a mile long on how to make me purr with glee when looking under my tree this year, but how do you tell that special someone how to please you?
It is a dangerous topic that definitely needs addressing because not enough people express themselves when it comes to sex. Who better to help you in the bedroom than me? I am sure you have had this thought before, too! Right!?! So let's get down and dirty, or leather and lace, or whips and chains, or whatever your likes and dislikes may be- and do a little sharing.
How do you approach the topic?
A little sexual check-up is healthy in any relationship. If there is an obvious problem then be gentle with your mount of the topic, but this does not mean let it go. There may be factors contributing to the lack of intimacy such as stress, depression, or medication. Being forthright and honest with your wants and needs at the right time, like when having a picnic in the bedroom, will show you are not complaining but trying to improve things. Do not use negative words, stay focused on your wants/desires.
Does it make you look bad to have sexual knowledge?
Approaching the topic of heightened sexual experiences will not make you look bad. Do not compare old lovers with your current one, but do be free to improve current sexual encounters with positive reinforcements. Remember you can get a Bachelor's Degree in something and still have only went to one school! Just because you are good doesn't mean you spread your knowledge through out the land!
Want to get creative with your sex life?
You deserve to be fulfilled! As does your partner, so remember that! Roll playing, games, trying new things, the list goes on and on! Nothing kills a sex life faster than being bored. Chances are if you are bored, so are they! Dress up! Be creative, and make sure you experiment! There is no shame in trying new things!
What if your likes/dislikes differ?
You have to be open to all ideas…with in reason, that is! You may not know if what tickles his fancy will tickle yours as well until you give it a shot. It is better to give and receive, so be willing to take a chance with them and make sure they return the favor. If you end up being totally incapable sexually you may need to go a step further into evaluating the status of the relationship.
How do you keep it fresh?
Keep sex on the front burner. Evaluate on a regular basis, whether things are good or not so much. Having the habit of a check up will keep pleasure on your mind when the time comes and make you a more sexual person in general. Find activities that you haven't done before, or places you haven't tried just to mix it up. Give yourself permission to be pleased how you want.
So my little love muffins, I hope you go straight away to your lovers door and beat it down with my advice. I will be listening for your bumps in the night air! Happy Holidays to you and yours and be sure to wrap your packages.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Be sure to email me with your comments, love notes, and ideas at tigerroxxx@gmail.com!
Monday, December 1, 2008
The Go Backsies…
The Go Backsies…
Well hello there, my cutie kitties and precious pups, it's Tiger RoxXx, your favorite feline here. As I have watched this year spin by I have also had the joy of seeing you move in and out… and in…and out…of your relationships that is. So I thought it was just about time to discuss that little annoying topic of how to avoid the 'Go Backsies'. You know what I mean! That all too precious safe thing of a relationship that may not be all that safe for our mind, body, and soul. We all have done it; there is no shame in admitting it…but why?
Why after closing that nasty little door behind us do we stray back into the lairs of the once forgotten painful romance that we know is no good for us? Well, the short answer would be selective memory (no that is not just a male aliment). We choose to believe that things can be much different as well as forgetting the reasons that we stopped doing what we did. The long answer… we all want to win. Admit it, it's all about the competition! "Failed relationship", "Lost Love", "breaking up" – these are all terms of winning or losing something. Now, whether we were the initiator of the process or not, we still may feel ourselves wanting to go back. Let's look at it!
Excuse 1 "Maybe it wasn't so bad," When we first leave the ideas and reasons for leaving are fresh in our head. It probably has been a long time coming and the wounds are seeping and oozing. Once they heal, it is much easier to ignore the scars caused by the relationship and we only think of our loneliness. Instead of doing the work we should on ourselves or finding a new love we go back to the familiar.
Excuse 2 "Maybe I didn't try hard enough," This stems from guilt and lack of self love. Instead of building our self esteem we are bending to someone else's will. Do not allow this to happen. We can not go back and change what happened in the relationship by rekindling it.
Excuse 3 "Maybe he/she could change after all," If we love someone we love them for who they are. We should be happy with them from the jump. I know it sound cliché but it is a fact. Love them or leave them- the imperfections and perfections, that means we do not have to think about making compromises - we just do.
Excuse 4 "But I really love them" Check out my article on "Love Sick" it talks about self destructive love behavior. If our love for someone is self destructive then it is not really love. If it were healthy we wouldn't have left. Going back into that situation is bad for everyone involved.
Excuse 5 "We have been together so long" Really? This one cracks me up the most. What I hear is: "I have been miserable for 6 yrs, I can't stop now!" When we are not happy we are not happy, do not go back to try and work it out because we have time invested, that just means we gave it a shot already. Good job, move on.
So if you are playing the game of the 'Go Backsies' then no one is going to win…except maybe the movers. So start fresh with yourself, by yourself, so we can end the year with some amazing adventures! I can think of a few other things that you can go in and out of…no silly, not that… the bars.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Well hello there, my cutie kitties and precious pups, it's Tiger RoxXx, your favorite feline here. As I have watched this year spin by I have also had the joy of seeing you move in and out… and in…and out…of your relationships that is. So I thought it was just about time to discuss that little annoying topic of how to avoid the 'Go Backsies'. You know what I mean! That all too precious safe thing of a relationship that may not be all that safe for our mind, body, and soul. We all have done it; there is no shame in admitting it…but why?
Why after closing that nasty little door behind us do we stray back into the lairs of the once forgotten painful romance that we know is no good for us? Well, the short answer would be selective memory (no that is not just a male aliment). We choose to believe that things can be much different as well as forgetting the reasons that we stopped doing what we did. The long answer… we all want to win. Admit it, it's all about the competition! "Failed relationship", "Lost Love", "breaking up" – these are all terms of winning or losing something. Now, whether we were the initiator of the process or not, we still may feel ourselves wanting to go back. Let's look at it!
Excuse 1 "Maybe it wasn't so bad," When we first leave the ideas and reasons for leaving are fresh in our head. It probably has been a long time coming and the wounds are seeping and oozing. Once they heal, it is much easier to ignore the scars caused by the relationship and we only think of our loneliness. Instead of doing the work we should on ourselves or finding a new love we go back to the familiar.
Excuse 2 "Maybe I didn't try hard enough," This stems from guilt and lack of self love. Instead of building our self esteem we are bending to someone else's will. Do not allow this to happen. We can not go back and change what happened in the relationship by rekindling it.
Excuse 3 "Maybe he/she could change after all," If we love someone we love them for who they are. We should be happy with them from the jump. I know it sound cliché but it is a fact. Love them or leave them- the imperfections and perfections, that means we do not have to think about making compromises - we just do.
Excuse 4 "But I really love them" Check out my article on "Love Sick" it talks about self destructive love behavior. If our love for someone is self destructive then it is not really love. If it were healthy we wouldn't have left. Going back into that situation is bad for everyone involved.
Excuse 5 "We have been together so long" Really? This one cracks me up the most. What I hear is: "I have been miserable for 6 yrs, I can't stop now!" When we are not happy we are not happy, do not go back to try and work it out because we have time invested, that just means we gave it a shot already. Good job, move on.
So if you are playing the game of the 'Go Backsies' then no one is going to win…except maybe the movers. So start fresh with yourself, by yourself, so we can end the year with some amazing adventures! I can think of a few other things that you can go in and out of…no silly, not that… the bars.
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Does your relationship suck?
Does your relationship suck?
Hi there my loves! It is your sharp toothed kitty here with a quick check up on that
naughty R word! Puzzled? Shouldn't be...you know, relationship! Have you have
been riding the fence (instead of your love) on whether or not to call it quits? Well
I am here to pound that final nail right on the head. But are you ready for it?
There are lots of reasons why relationships fail, some are obvious while others
are hidden under the covers. Let's look at some of the naughty signs.
Control. One person feels like they are out of it, while the other has it all. Control,
like power, comes from with in yourself. You can not gain any more control by
taking it from someone else! Seriously. If you stay in control of yourself, your
mate is more likely to follow suit. Struggling to take control usually ends up in a
lose-lose situation, making both parties out of control. If you feel like you can not
get control of yourself and neither can your mate you need to find some one who
makes you feel more comfortable.
Keeping score. If the pattern in your relationship is to take count of who did what
and when then this is a serious sign of a failing relationship. It means that one
or the other of you feels like they bring more value into the relationship. This is a
hidden sign of selfishness, which will only grow worse with time.
It's already over. If you or your sweetie went into the relationship with an escape
plan, you better bet your bottom that it will be used. Negative thinking will spread
like...oh, that would be to easy...butter on a hot bun. HA! Planning for the end will
ensure that there will be one. This can also be a sign of being detached from
commitment, a constant pessimist, and someone who is always looking for the
next best thing.
Sneakiness. If your relationship does not mirror that of a best friend then it is not
a healthy relationship. If you have things you can not share or hide from your treat
then you are building a house of cards waiting for someone to just blow.
Openness is a sign of trust and without trust there is nothing. You may feel like
your cutie doesn't have to know all your business, all that means is you are not
ready to be in a relationship.
Is it me or my Rolex? Many times a person falls for what the other represents.
Other times it is the feeling that they get while around the other person, while not
really liking who that person is. Sometimes people like the feeling of falling while
not really caring who it may be with, then they find themselves in a full on
relationship unable to start over. Evaluate how you feel about that person, not
what they have, represent, or project. Do you really like them?
So those are the cold hard facts my sweet treats! So go home, check out the
base of your relationship, then do something. There is no need in staying
somewhere that you aren't perfectly happy!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Hi there my loves! It is your sharp toothed kitty here with a quick check up on that
naughty R word! Puzzled? Shouldn't be...you know, relationship! Have you have
been riding the fence (instead of your love) on whether or not to call it quits? Well
I am here to pound that final nail right on the head. But are you ready for it?
There are lots of reasons why relationships fail, some are obvious while others
are hidden under the covers. Let's look at some of the naughty signs.
Control. One person feels like they are out of it, while the other has it all. Control,
like power, comes from with in yourself. You can not gain any more control by
taking it from someone else! Seriously. If you stay in control of yourself, your
mate is more likely to follow suit. Struggling to take control usually ends up in a
lose-lose situation, making both parties out of control. If you feel like you can not
get control of yourself and neither can your mate you need to find some one who
makes you feel more comfortable.
Keeping score. If the pattern in your relationship is to take count of who did what
and when then this is a serious sign of a failing relationship. It means that one
or the other of you feels like they bring more value into the relationship. This is a
hidden sign of selfishness, which will only grow worse with time.
It's already over. If you or your sweetie went into the relationship with an escape
plan, you better bet your bottom that it will be used. Negative thinking will spread
like...oh, that would be to easy...butter on a hot bun. HA! Planning for the end will
ensure that there will be one. This can also be a sign of being detached from
commitment, a constant pessimist, and someone who is always looking for the
next best thing.
Sneakiness. If your relationship does not mirror that of a best friend then it is not
a healthy relationship. If you have things you can not share or hide from your treat
then you are building a house of cards waiting for someone to just blow.
Openness is a sign of trust and without trust there is nothing. You may feel like
your cutie doesn't have to know all your business, all that means is you are not
ready to be in a relationship.
Is it me or my Rolex? Many times a person falls for what the other represents.
Other times it is the feeling that they get while around the other person, while not
really liking who that person is. Sometimes people like the feeling of falling while
not really caring who it may be with, then they find themselves in a full on
relationship unable to start over. Evaluate how you feel about that person, not
what they have, represent, or project. Do you really like them?
So those are the cold hard facts my sweet treats! So go home, check out the
base of your relationship, then do something. There is no need in staying
somewhere that you aren't perfectly happy!
Meow Baby,
Tiger RoxXx
Thursday, October 2, 2008
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