Does your relationship suck?

Does your relationship suck?

Hi there my loves! It is your sharp toothed kitty here with a quick check up on that
naughty R word! Puzzled? Shouldn't be...you know, relationship! Have you have
been riding the fence (instead of your love) on whether or not to call it quits? Well
I am here to pound that final nail right on the head. But are you ready for it?
There are lots of reasons why relationships fail, some are obvious while others
are hidden under the covers. Let's look at some of the naughty signs.

Control. One person feels like they are out of it, while the other has it all. Control,
like power, comes from with in yourself. You can not gain any more control by
taking it from someone else! Seriously. If you stay in control of yourself, your
mate is more likely to follow suit. Struggling to take control usually ends up in a
lose-lose situation, making both parties out of control. If you feel like you can not
get control of yourself and neither can your mate you need to find some one who
makes you feel more comfortable.

Keeping score. If the pattern in your relationship is to take count of who did what
and when then this is a serious sign of a failing relationship. It means that one
or the other of you feels like they bring more value into the relationship. This is a
hidden sign of selfishness, which will only grow worse with time.
It's already over. If you or your sweetie went into the relationship with an escape
plan, you better bet your bottom that it will be used. Negative thinking will spread
like...oh, that would be to easy...butter on a hot bun. HA! Planning for the end will
ensure that there will be one. This can also be a sign of being detached from
commitment, a constant pessimist, and someone who is always looking for the
next best thing.

Sneakiness. If your relationship does not mirror that of a best friend then it is not
a healthy relationship. If you have things you can not share or hide from your treat
then you are building a house of cards waiting for someone to just blow.
Openness is a sign of trust and without trust there is nothing. You may feel like
your cutie doesn't have to know all your business, all that means is you are not
ready to be in a relationship.

Is it me or my Rolex? Many times a person falls for what the other represents.
Other times it is the feeling that they get while around the other person, while not
really liking who that person is. Sometimes people like the feeling of falling while
not really caring who it may be with, then they find themselves in a full on
relationship unable to start over. Evaluate how you feel about that person, not
what they have, represent, or project. Do you really like them?

So those are the cold hard facts my sweet treats! So go home, check out the
base of your relationship, then do something. There is no need in staying
somewhere that you aren't perfectly happy!

Meow Baby,


Tiger RoxXx