What's love got to do with it?

What's love got to do with it?
The Tiger RoxXx guide to casual dating…by Tiger RoxXx

September, 2008

Happy hot summer nights my juicy darlings! It is your friendly neighborhood sex kitten here to chat about that misunderstood topic of the casual relationship. Now we all know that everybody wants somebody to love, but you may have to play the field before you find that special one to that makes you want to settle in for the home run! So, it is up to you to decide how you make the best of it when you play the game.

But what is casual dating? By definition it is: two people who are trying to get to know one another better, without commitments or promises through dating. Either or both parties can be casually dating other people. Nice! Right? Well, it should be! How do you keep it all in the pretty little package it started out in? Let's discuss the guide to being a causal dater.

1) Open Communication. Be clear on your motives for being a casual dater. Is it to find 'the one'? Is it because you are not ready for a commitment? Is it because you love multiple relationships? Whatever, just be clear! The other person should live with it and continue to date you or move to someone with the same goals.

2) Make dating boundaries. Make sure there are clear and established expectations. There doesn't have to be a regiment, but if both parties understand the 'contact' rules then there will be no surprises that cause either party to be uncomfortable later and possibly a good thing to stop. Do you think public affection is 'a fine time' and she thinks it is 'not so much', is she calling every day and you consider that invasion of space?… these are things that need to be determined…and what about sex? Enough said!

3) Do not expect it to turn into a relationship. Even if both parties' goals are to look for their love, the issue may seem forced if you push it and therefore won't flow as easy. Just concentrate on the date not a mate.

4) Date multiple people. You are casual dating, so don't limit yourself. If you bound yourself to only one person, you can not see all of your options and experience the opportunities of casual dating.

5) Date a variety of compatible people. If you cookie cutter your options you might as well just stop now! Sure we all have our tastes and likes and dislikes, but that doesn't mean our idea of a good time can't vary in a wide spectrum. Try to flow from one end of it to the other to be sure you shop around.

So my darling daters don't feel bad about fooling around with your share of sweet hearts in order to end up with the right tasty treat. Oh, and dating means you have to actually do something you both like at a planned time. You don't have to spend money but there is a difference in dating and hanging out…but that is another lesson in itself. (hint hint) And remember that you are your best beloved, so love yourself first!

Meow Baby,

Tiger RoxXx